It's All Your Fault at Work
2015 Axiom Business Books Award Winner!
Bronze Medal: Human Resources Category
Managing Narcissists and Other High Conflict People
Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
L. Georgi DiStefano
2015 Axiom Business Books Award Winner!
Bronze Medal: Human Resources Category
Managing Narcissists and Other High Conflict People
Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
L. Georgi DiStefano
2015 Axiom Business Books Award Winner!
Bronze Medal: Human Resources Category
Managing Narcissists and Other High Conflict People
Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
L. Georgi DiStefano
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Description
No, it’s not just your imagination—more and more people in the workplace today have high-conflict personalities. Co-workers, clients, even bosses are behaving in narcissistic or bullying ways, choosing targets and then placing blame on them, treating them with disdain, or otherwise acting in aggressive, inappropriate ways. Some go so far as to spread damaging rumors, harass, or directly sabotage their targets, among other extreme behaviors. These are not people who are just having an occasional bad day; these are people who display a repeated pattern of high-conflict behavior. And they aren’t just difficult; they are the most difficult of people. Some have true personality disorders, while others have only some traits of these disorders. Either way, they can make your life at work stressful, frustrating, and extremely challenging.
The good news is that their behavior is not about you—it’s about them. What’s more, you can learn strategies and techniques to deal with them more effectively at work. Based on Bill Eddy’s high-conflict personality theory, he and co-author, L. Georgi DiStefano, expertly define the problem so you can recognize potential high-conflict people (HCPs) in your own work life. They describe the key characteristics of HCPs and the typical behavior patterns of five main types of high-conflict personalities. Then they walk you through their proactive approach for minimizing conflict and keeping interactions with HCPs as peaceful as possible. You’ll learn about—and see examples of—how to use a simple, proven four-step method to help calm HCPs, analyze your options, respond to hostility, and set limits on extreme behavior. While you cannot ultimately change someone else’s personality, you can adapt your own behavior and respond to the person in different ways that make things better at work for yourself, the high-conflict person, and your organization.
The Authors
Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of High Conflict Institute. He is an international expert on managing disputes involving high conflict personalities and personality disorders in court. Eddy is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Previously, Eddy was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker providing therapy in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He is on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College.
L. Georgi DiStefano, LCSW, received her BA with highest honors from Richmond College, City University of New York, and her Masters in Social Work from State University of New York at Stony Brook. Ms. DiStefano has served as a clinician, program director, trainer, and consultant throughout her career. She has worked as a trainer for NASW on alcohol/substance dependency and has been invited to speak on her work at international conferences. It's All Your Fault At Work is her third book.
Review
Collections strong in books on business management will find the narrowed focus and insights especially important in It's All Your Fault at Work. More and more workers have high-conflict personalities: the business manager's challenge is on how (or if) to manage them. As narcissistic or bullying people dominate the workplace and spread discard, it's important that managers not only understand the signs and effects of these personalities, but realize their options in responding to workplace hostility and how to set limits. This book packs in specifics, from responding to misinformation and considering who in the workplace fits the description of a 'high conflict personality' to making the most of workplace atmosphere and re-directing conflict to more positive results. No manager should be without this analysis.
—Midwest Book Review, June 2015
Book Info
Publisher: High Conflict Institute Press
Publication date: January 21, 2015
Pages: 244
Binding: Paperback
ISBN (print): 9781936268627
ISBN (ebook): 9781936268634
Author: Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
Author: Georgi Distefano, LCSW