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Managing Your Life with a High-Conflict Co-Parent
How to get off the emotional roller coaster and understand triggers and resulting response patterns so you can reclaim your life. Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle discuss The High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide
Writing BIFF Responses to High Conflict People When You Don’t Feel Like It
Receiving an email, text or letter can put a dent in your day when it contains a zinger. It can get right under your skin and ruin your day and maybe even a few nights’ sleep as you perseverate about it and draft numerous responses in your head.
Aftermath of a Flawed System
Lawyers, judges, mediators, mental health professionals and others who deal with high-conflict cases, especially in family law, unwittingly entered a high-risk profession. They don't enter law or grad school with a desire to someday have clients who can be the most volatile and dangerous in society, putting themselves at risk both physically and emotionally.
3 Real Love Lessons We Can Learn From Actual Reality TV Shows
Relationship Expert Megan Hunter talks about real life lessons we can learn from reality television using examples from actual reality shows, on the Lowdown.
Are You Dating a Crazy?
How many times have you heard a friend say, “It seems that I am always picking the wrong kind of person to date?” Maybe you’ve even said this yourself, after coming out of a true nightmarish relationship. But what if you never allowed that first or second date to go any further?
If Empathy is King, Are Boundaries It’s Queen with HCPs?
In a previous article in which I crowned EMPATHY as king when dealing with high-conflict personalities—those folks who are the most toxic, the most difficult of difficult people—I asked for feedback from readers. You were kind with your comments and thoughtful with your suggestions. The comment that resonated the most was this:
True or False? If You're Not Willing to Adapt Your Strategy with High Conflict People, You Should Get Out Now
High-conflict cases in the courts and high-conflict personalities (HCPs) in the workplace get a lot of play these days and we're seeing more people than ever claiming expertise in dealing with them. But should they? What qualifies anyone as an expert, or even moderately competent, to take on a high-conflict case, workplace or other dispute?
Be A Calming Agent, Not A Logician
Do you catch yourself using LOGIC and EXPLANATIONS when interacting with most people? It's natural and routine. We expect people to respond to logic, but it doesn't always work and sometimes it backfires, especially with people who may have a high-conflict personality (HCP).
Why Tight Business Practices Are Critical to Avoid Lawsuits and Attacks by High-Conflict Personalities
Anyone who has launched a business (or practice) kicks it off with exuberance and dreams of freedom and unlimited potential. It starts with a great idea coupled with boundless enthusiasm about the future. We put in the effort to develop protocols, policies and procedures so we can have an efficiently run business and off we go to fulfill our life's purpose.
Why Is Being the Target of Blame of a High-Conflict Personality so Stressful?
Whether you're in a dispute with your brother, classmate, work colleague, spouse or even someone you don't know, conflict is stressful. We talk about healthy and unhealthy conflict, and yes, some conflict is healthy, but conflict is always a distraction from work, life, family and other important things we all have to do.
9 Signs You're In a Toxic Marriage
When red flags arise, they often aren't as obvious as we'd think. Here, experts break down which ones to watch out for—and how to fix them.