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BIFF® Communications for Estranged Families
This time of year we think about and visit with our families. Hopefully happy times. But for many people, it is a sad time because of estranged family relationships. Is there anything that can be done to help reconcile these relationships during the holidays?
99 Things to Do When You Are Feeling Depressed
A major depressive episode can be exhausting and deeply discouraging for individuals who are already coping with a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder or self-injurious behaviors. Here are some ideas you may want to consider while you’re coping with depression.
Living in Your Own World
When people get a divorce, they are often seduced into the “world of lawyers,” who live in the world of the law. The law dictates…
Do Narcissists Make Good Leaders in Business?
The world of business and leadership would seem to be dominated by narcissists, because of their ability to draw attention to themselves and to get people to follow them.
The Beast
Living with Borderline Personality Disorder is painful. We are consumed daily with the most intense and unstable emotions, self-loathing and distorted thinking. Our thoughts and our feelings are completely invisible to the outside world, thus making it difficult for outsiders to understand that our behaviors are simply a manifestation of what is going on internally.
HCPs and Violence
Recent news of mass shootings has made everyone more anxious and fearful that it could, in fact, “happen here.” The search is on for causes and solutions to this increasing problem. I have been asked to explain…
Writing BIFF Responses to High Conflict People When You Don’t Feel Like It
Receiving an email, text or letter can put a dent in your day when it contains a zinger. It can get right under your skin and ruin your day and maybe even a few nights’ sleep as you perseverate about it and draft numerous responses in your head.
Don’t Be Tricked by the Traditional Family Law System into Making a Bad Deal!
In business planning, a boss or committee in the business, will develop a Strategic Intention for the business, a Value Proposition and Standards by which to measure the success of the business.
Can High-Conflict People Change?
Can High-Conflict People Change? This is an increasingly important question in many areas of modern life. One test is to see whether they can learn new ways of dealing with their behavior in a short-term structure.
Understanding Divorce Conflict: The Myths of Divorce
This is another article in the series of articles that focus on divorce conflict, a problem in search of a solution. In order to solve as complex a problem as divorce conflict, we need to fully understand the factors undergirding it
Have Goal Based Standards for Success!
The traditional family law system lacks a customer focused strategic intent and value proposition that helps divorcing parties develop a plan for reaching long term family and financial goals. Therefore, parties and their attorneys must focus on developing such a plan in negotiations, by cooperating.
Understanding Divorce Conflict: Do the Math!
Most professionals involved with divorcing parties, especially attorneys and judges, see how destructive conflict in divorce is to the parties, to the children of divorce and to the parenting relationship. To understand divorce conflict fully would fill a book, but your authors plan to address the topic in bitesize pieces. This is a piece.